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1. You bring crazy ideas to the table knowing that
she’d approve regardless of how out-of-the-box they
are. To be fair, your boss taught you everything you
know. Still, it’s her job to oversee your ideas and
rein them in when necessary.
2. You constantly feel like you owe her. Sure,
she
may have bailed you out of a tough time and gotten
you your job back, but that doesn’t mean she
should hold it over your head in perpetuity, nor
should you let her.
3. No matter how badly you want to, you just can’t
quit the job — or her. Repeat: She is not all you
have. There are other options — and other bosses
— out there.
4. Coworkers resent you for being the boss’s
favorite. If you’re openly referred to as her “mini-
me,” chances are you haven’t made many other
friends in the office. Having strong relationships
with your colleagues is just as important as getting
in good with your superiors.
5. She snoops on your personal life. Being chill with
your boss knowing all about your relationships,
family situation, mental state, and current
medications is a sign of a codependency. It’s time
to step back and put some major (and healthy)
distance between you two.
6. She gives unsolicited advice. And the worst part
is? You take it. Even if she means well, no one
should just start throwing out life tips like they’re
candy and expect you to eat it all up. Consider
what she has to say and then make your own
decision.
7. People cheer when you ignore her calls. Picking
up her calls during the workweek isn’t that big a
deal, but on late nights or weekends, hit “silence.”
Not only will this help you establish independence,
but you’ll also avoid starting down a slippery slope
of being the employee who’s always emotionally
and physically available.
8. She’s said she’ll do anything to keep you on her
staff. There’s no way around this one. Threatening
to use the dirt she has against you to keep you on
staff is not professional. If you feel threatened and
trapped into staying where you are, speak to her or
an HR rep about it ASAP.
9. You’ll do anything to impress her. Even if she’s
manipulative, she’s the smartest woman you know
and her approval means everything to you. That’s a
red flag. She may be smart and you can a lot learn
from her, but that doesn’t mean you should bend
over backward to win her over.
10. You’ve shared a bed with your boss. No matter
how friendly you two are, there’s always a better
option than sharing a bed — always.
11. You listen when she gossips about, well,
everything. If she wants to share her personal life
with you, that’s her prerogative. But once she starts
gossiping about your coworkers and reveals their
secrets, it’s time to walk. That’s not a position you
want to be in.
12. You believe your boss knows you better than
you know yourself. First rule of adulthood: You have
to look out for no. 1. Don’t let anyone,
especially your boss, know you better than yourself.
13. You tell your boss you love her. Even though
your relationship is complicated and toxic, you love
her. And while that’s nice and dandy, make sure
you’re able to separate that loving friendship from
your professional, working relationship, and all that
comes with it.
Is any guy guilty of this? Do you agree?
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